Having a special needs kid really requires you to re-think everything. You can’t just show up at birthday parties the same way. You don’t go to parks the same way…restaurants, movies, grocery shopping, you name it- it’s different!
But what I’ve been finding out on our little journey is that I still have to try (almost) everything! Ollie wants to be a part of so many things. As his mother I should expose him to new opportunities. He needs these moments to broaden his horizons…
I’m going to be upfront and say that sometimes it doesn’t work out well. Sometimes it’s a freaking DISASTER. But sometimes it’s not! And you never know until you try…
Like skating for example… It was a DISASTER. I’m not sure what I was thinking putting 8 wheels underneath feet that didn’t know yet how to walk. It was a back breaking, emotionally catastrophic experience. Although sometimes I think that maybe it would have been better if I had never tried… after a little time away from the situation I realize that despite the fact that we weren’t ready for that yet, there were many things to celebrate!
- My oldest got to skate with friends.
- Some of my best friends stepped up and pushed Ollie around the rink in his wheel chair. (They also kept me from stewing on the fact that this was not going to work the way I planned!)
- I helped a disabled child ROLLER SKATE. How in the world?! (And I won’t try again for a very long time… but I did it!)
- And most importantly, RELATIONSHIP (and love) won that day 🙂
The 4th of July… We let Ollie hold his very own sparkler. It was terrifying AND wonderful! Fire in your hands?! Who wouldn’t love that?! In my book, Ollie experienced SUCCESS!
This picture shows us hiking on a camping trip with our family and friends… It was a great success! I must admit that at one point I did turn to my husband to say “this is f%$#ing miserable.” But we kept at it and adjusted our expectations. (Quickly mourning the fact that it will not be easy) We moved on and had a great time! We definitely worked hard and now need a vacation from our vacation. But it was SO FUN. Look at those guys! This picture makes me so proud 🙂
Going to a 3D movie…? DISASTER. Won’t be trying that again any time soon 🙂
I guess to sum this up….I’m thinking about anyone out there that feels afraid or dismayed. I hope to encourage you today to put on your big girl (or guy!) panties and get out there. TRY EVERYTHING (that’s healthy! :))
Be brave. It’s absolutely essential to take into consideration the dangers. But ask yourself and those that you trust, what’s it worth? I actually had to close my eyes when my hubby took Ollie up on that log. But that day it was for the best that he experienced what others got to.
What’s on your horizon? What do you wish you could do? What do you wish your child could experience? What will it take to get there?
My hope for you today is that you get to experience a new victory. And in that, that it would bring a smile to your face and hope to your heart.
Feel free to share stories below! I’d love to hear from you!